• #6778

    True, but I didn’t explain myself very well. Yes, of course you can record those events by the use of the “Y” if you wish (1 MARR/BIRT/DEAT Y”), but my personal belief is that if you do so it should be accompanied by either a source or a note that explains and justifies your assertion – even if it just gives you as the source and your assertion that “I know it happened”. At least that way in 20yrs time or more one of your heirs can read it and know how you came to the conclusion they were actually (legally) married.

    But I also think you are confusing “married” with “together”. If you can’t find a date or place for your grandparents wedding, and (I assume) none of those 7 children were actually at that event how do any of them REALLY know there was a marriage? So you can certainly record them as a couple but can you really record a marriage?

    I have plenty of examples where parents never married, and never admitted to that until extremely late in life, if at all. They simply let everyone assume they were married. I believe my own gt grandmother to be an example of that in respect of her second husband (after my gt grandfather died). All census documents describe them as “married” but that is just what an enumerator recorded. There is no evidence (documentary) that a marriage actually took place.

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